I CARE by Karissa Hagemeister, EIC & Author.”


  • She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” Proverbs 31:27-28



The modern day Proverbs 31 woman is a woman that cares for herself, her family and for others. The two verses that we are focusing on this month are verses 27 and 28:

Proverbs 31:27-28 NIV

She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.”

This first verse (verse 27) has a dual meaning in both sections of it. The first section, “She watches over the affairs of her household,” has the literal meaning of the Proverbs 31 woman paying attention to all of the goings on in her own home. She is aware of how everyone is behaving in school, she knows how well her family is doing financially, she knows the names of her workers and knows what they are dealing with.

From the next section of this verse and the ones to follow, we can imply that not only does she know, she is aware, but she also cares for the needs of the household.

  • “Her children arise and call her blessed,” this shows us that she is caring for the needs of her children. She takes care of them, their well-being, and she raises them to be respectful of her as their mother. They are thankful and bless her in return. She teaches her children and trains them up in the way that they are to live as respectable adults: able to communicate, work hard and make a living with their own hands, and to care for others. Part of caring for your kids is training them right from wrong and teaching them in life. The Bible says, “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” I do not see a lot of training going on anymore. I see parents handing their babies iPads and iPhones and letting their brains become mush before they have even fully developed. The two youngest generations on this earth right now are running like a chicken with their heads cut off, following what celebrities do and what YouTube stars do. Why? Because their parents are not taking the time to care for them and train them in the way to go.
  • “Her husband also, and he praises her,” HE PRAISES HER!! Ladies! How many of you are tired of your husband not doing what he is asked or not helping you out? Does he even praise you?? Maybe, just maybe, you are not caring for him. As a wife, it is our duty to care for our husbands in all the ways that they need it. We are not to stop this once we have children. We are not to care for them until we marry them and then stop. Man and wife are to be a team. That is the way that God designed it. Each family unit is going to operate differently. As a team, you and your husband should work together to find out how best to work together to meet each others needs. I can guarantee you that if you are not meeting his needs, caring for him, he is going to go somewhere else to get his needs cared for. Play your role in the team and care for each other, and you will get that lovely, oh so sweet praise from your man (instead of him giving it to some homewrecker).

The second part of that first verse says, she “does not eat the bread of idleness.” Once again there are two meanings to this verse:

  • The first is, the modern day Proverbs 31 woman is not lazy. We have discussed this in almost every part of our Proverbs 31 study. She does not sit idly by wasting her time, or her life. As I have mentioned in previous stories, each person on this earth was given a purpose. We are not doing ourselves or others any good by sitting around, watching TV, or gossiping with other ladies.
  • Gossiping brings me to my next point. Idle chatter, or spreading gossip is not an act of a Proverbs 31 woman or a caring woman for that matter. Gossiping or listening to gossipers only leads to destruction for yourself and all the other parties involved. Protect your own reputation and that of others be refraining from and disassociating with those given to idleness and gossiping.

We have made t-shirts that say “I CARE” loud, bold and proud for you this month. Wear them as a reminder to care for others, spread the message of caring, and to let others know that you do care. There is not enough caring people anymore. I even find myself saying often, “I don’t care.” Well, even I need to care a little more. Take the initiative to start the change reaction of caring for others. Watch how you caring for someone will inspire them to care for someone else. It is a beautiful thing to see caring hearts spread throughout your community.

May 8, 2019, Wednesday

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Let your soul grow

Hello Beautiful, 

To end our discussion on growth, we are going to hit up the final part of who you are, your soul. We talked about spiritual growth last week and we also discussed how our body growth (as far as height goes) does as it pleases. So the last section to touch on is growth in the soul. 
The soul itself is made up of three sections: your mind, will and emotions. Each of these could take up a whole article but I will only touch on them briefly and show how to grow in each area. 
MIND: This is an easy one. Growing your mind comes through learning. Allow your mind to absorb new information. Let it go past the boundaries. Our mind has the potential to take us to places never before reached or to keep us stuck in a box. If you think you can only learn so much or do so much, that is where you will stop. If you think without limits and believe that you can learn anything, there are no limits on what your mind, and what you, can achieve. Read books, complete puzzles, keep your mind active. Stay away from mindless entertainment as much as possible. At the same time, allow your mind to rest. Especially when it gets close to bed time. This is probably the hardest part for me. I have a hard time letting my mind rest and then my overactive mind often follows me into my dreams, making for a very unrestful sleep. 
WILL: Your will is the standard that determines what you will or will not do, think, or say. How strong is your will power? Do you give in to peer pressure easily? If you do, you need to work on strengthening your will. Do you have a hard time telling people “No”? Than you need to strengthen your will. The easiest way to do this is to adopt some morals, make some guidelines that coincide with those morals and stick to them. For example, drugs only hinder you. So you make a moral decision not to do drugs. Than you set up some guidelines: I will not hang out with these people because they do drugs all the time. I will not waste money on drugs, I will save it for a car. I will not take any drugs no matter who offers it and I will not use any drugs no matter how badly my mind tells me that I need to. Once you set up these guidelines, it helps build up your will power to say no to the things you do not want to do. 
Some people have a strong will power but it is against things that would actually be beneficial to them. For example, people that have been hurt by a certain group of people, say that they will never let those types of people into their lives again. This is not beneficial because this places all of those types of people into a category and they could be missing out on some really great relationships. 
Some areas in your will need to be strengthened and some need to be reevaluated. The best thing to do would be to sit down and write out your morals. How well do you stick to those when confronted? From there, determine which ones need to have some guidelines set so that they get strengthened. Also, take some time to think about the things that you tend to avoid or say no to often. Are these things helping or hindering you? I had to do this in my early college years. I used to avoid people because I was so shy and scared about what could happen. But I needed friends. So I made the choice to slowly get out there and meet people. If you met me today, you would have no idea that I was ever shy like that. 
EMOTIONS: This is possibly the hardest one, especially for ladies. We tend to be more emotional beings than the men. Growing emotionally is learning to feel your emotions, understand what is causing them, and go through the “symptoms” without letting them dictate your day. In other words, we have to choose to live not based on what we feel. When you begin to feel something, identify where it is coming from, experience that feeling and handle the situation as best as you can. Then remove yourself from that emotion. What happens too often is people get sad from some painful experience and they sit in their sadness. They take it on as their identity and accept it as who they are. They were never meant to live in sadness. But because they are emotionally immature, they did not know how to handle the sadness and move on with the rest of their life. I spent a big part of my life like this. In my mid-twenties I finally learned to experience the emotion and then release it. But it was one of the hardest growing experiences that I have ever dealt with. 
Growth is a heavy topic and I know we have spent a whole month on it but I hope that you have grown through this experience and have taken down some pointers for future growth. Next month is going to be very exciting. We cannot wait to introduce our new theme to you. 
Until then, have a great rest of your April!
Karissa Hagemeister